Dating an introvert when you are quite an extrovert can be extremely challenging, especially when it comes to social events.
At any given time or place, those of us who are much more outgoing than our partners often find it hard to include them as they are most likely hiding in a corner somewhere and playing on their phones.
However, when it comes to inviting them to family parties, including ones where the commute takes hours to get to the event’s destination, do we invite them to the party or automatically know we have to entertain them the entire time?
This guy basically found himself in that exact situation with his girlfriend after he went to his brother’s wedding.
While attending his brother’s wedding, he tried to get his girlfriend, an introvert, to join in on dinner parties and special activities, but she kept declining.
She eventually got so disappointed in the amount of energy he put into making friends and hanging with family members that she went up to their hotel room to sulk alone.
Tied between a rock and a hard place, he couldn’t help but feel like he tried. However, while he felt terrible his girlfriend didn’t feel comfortable being a part of the social events that weekend, he knew that he wanted to make the best out of the wedding as he only has one brother, and being involved meant the world to him.
Once it came time for dinner after the wedding ceremony, he went to his room, hoping to find his girlfriend. There she was, sulking about feeling left out, bored, and wanting to head home early.
He proceeded to tell her that the idea of driving four hours home was not feasible as they also carpooled with a guest who lived just outside the city they drove in from. On top of this, it was his brother’s wedding.
Furiously, she claimed he trapped her into coming and explained it was extremely unfair that they were not able to leave early.
They managed to make up and head to dinner, only for her to be rude to every single person she encountered, minus his parents. This left him extremely humiliated.
“I was quite embarrassed and told her that I feel sorry that she can’t enjoy the wedding and the guests, but that I want to enjoy the whole weekend,” he explained.
“It’s my only brother. This is a unique event (I told her that in private). She stormed off. From that point forward, we didn’t talk at all until late in the night when I went to bed.”
“She said I’m [a jerk] because I trapped her there by refusing to leave early. I think I wouldn’t have left the event early even if we didn’t have a guest ride with us back in the car. ”
He also felt incredibly sad, as he did try his best to include his girlfriend in everything at the wedding.
Now he seems to wonder, is he in the wrong for not giving all of his attention to his girlfriend, or should she have, knowing that she is an introvert, found a way to occupy herself if she felt the need to recharge her social battery?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
