This 34-year-old woman and her ex-husband, Jake, who’s 36, have been divorced for just over two years now. However, their split has been complicated since they share two sons, one of whom has autism.
‘And I feel like I’ve been left completely alone to take care of them,” she said.
The minute they got divorced, Jake essentially “checked out” of their lives, never being there for her sons or contributing financially whatsoever.
According to her, she’s tried talking to her ex-husband on numerous occasions and asking him for help, too. She has told him how much their sons need him, yet Jake always claims he’s too busy with work and cannot deal with the stress.
“But then I’ll see him on social media, out with friends, living it up on weekends, going on trips, and it just drives me insane,” she explained.
She, on the other hand, is constantly working long hours and figuring out how to make ends meet by herself, which is seriously draining.
So, just the other day, she finally snapped at her ex-husband and gave him an ultimatum. She threatened to file for full custody and request formal child support unless he stepped up.
“I just can’t keep doing this alone and watching him act like he’s got no responsibilities,” she reasoned.
If you couldn’t have guessed, though, Jake didn’t take that well. He flipped out on her, accusing her of trying to hurt him and saying she had no right to use the courts to “bleed him dry” or take his children away.
Regardless, in her mind, it’s not like her ex-husband even spends time with their sons. Rather, she feels like he’s only their father in name, nothing else.
Still, in the wake of their argument, she can’t help but wonder if threatening legal action was justified or if she really did go too far.
“Part of me thinks maybe I should just keep doing it myself, but I’m exhausted, and the kids deserve better than this,” she vented.
Should she have taken her ex-husband to court when they first split up? Does she have a right to pursue legal action now? What advice would you give her?
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