This 29-year-old woman and her fiancé, who’s 31, are getting married in just a few months. They’ve spent nearly a year planning their big day and will be having a small ceremony and reception.
Around 60 guests, including their family members and close friends, will be in attendance. And since she and her fiancé both love food, they worked with their caterer to create a menu that they are super excited about.
“It includes a mix of options like seafood, pasta, and some vegetarian dishes. Basically, things we both love,” she said.
The only issue is that her soon-to-be in-laws are extremely traditional when it comes to food. So, they’re quite upset that she and her fiancé aren’t serving any dishes that include “classic” meat and potatoes.
According to her, her future in-laws are genuinely great people. Nonetheless, they still believe that any meal without steak is “a waste of time.”
That’s why her fiancé’s parents have repeatedly asked them to either add steak or “something simple” as a menu option.
“And they’ve even hinted at covering the extra cost,” she added.
She doesn’t want to make any changes, though, because their menu is already completed, and tacking on another menu item would mess up their caterer’s timeline. It would impact their budget, too.
“Plus, this is a day we want to celebrate our way,” she reasoned.
She ended up telling her fiancé that she wouldn’t be making any menu adjustments, and he was supportive of her choice. However, he suggested that they should perhaps offer to pay for a couple of “plain” dinners, specifically for his parents.
As for her future in-laws, it was apparently clear when she spoke to them that they thought she was acting selfish and unaccommodating.
Some of her own relatives have agreed as well and claimed she should just let her fiancé’s parents have their steak.
“But I’m really struggling with the idea of changing things for just a few guests,” she vented.
Now, she’s not sure if refusing to alter her wedding menu for anyone, including her in-laws, is justified or makes her a jerk.
Should brides and grooms get to choose the meals they serve at their nuptials alone? What advice would you give her?
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