Whatever you do, don’t be ridiculous enough to write out a list of your significant other’s pros and cons because that’s not helping anyone. If you feel like someone has a long enough list of cons, probably reconsider being with them, ok?
Anyway, this poor girl recently discovered the list of pros and cons her boyfriend made about her, and it’s absolutely one of the most ridiculous things I have ever seen.
She happened to come across a notebook her boyfriend left out on his desk, and when she flipped it open, the crazy list was written down in the first couple of pages.
She was horrified to find it, and it’s not something she can simply forgive her boyfriend for while forgetting about it.
As for her list of pros, her boyfriend wrote that she has some great physical features, including a tight waist. He also mentioned that she’s an excellent cook and she does not snore at night.
He listed that she’s sweet, doesn’t smoke or drink, and is a good dancer. He also likes that she has great morals and doesn’t seem like she will ever cheat on him. Finally, he likes that she makes a lot of money.
Moving on to her cons, she can’t focus, swim, or watch movies well. She doesn’t have the same taste in music as her boyfriend.
She wears too much makeup, according to him, and her age, coupled with her small chest, aren’t things he likes at all. He also wrote that she’s short and not white (she’s Mexican and proud of it).
Her boyfriend is charming, kind, and easygoing, and she never imagined he would write something so hurtful about her.
“I spoke to him about it after a couple of hours after seeing it,” she said. “I was gaslit, I’d say. He says it’s true. I say there’s nothing wrong [with] me as I am crying.”
“He says that was dumb for him to write and he feels closer to me this weekend. He wrote this note a month ago while visiting his family in Germany. Based on how he treats me, I feel good with him. I do agree with comments, though, that I just can’t see. ”
“I talked about it the day after (yesterday) and said I can’t believe he wrote “isn’t white” as a con. He says he didn’t mean it that way and says he can’t communicate with my parents since they don’t speak English. I will be sharing this information with my therapist, but I am tired of forgiving so quickly.”
Do you think it’s worth dumping her boyfriend over this crazy list?
You can read the original post on Reddit here.
