Last week, this 28-year-old woman and her 30-year-old boyfriend went away on vacation to celebrate their two-year anniversary.
They returned from their trip two days ago, and it honestly was the most incredible and romantic experience of her life…until her boyfriend asked if he could fake propose to her in front of the Eiffel Tower. He even wanted to ask some random stranger to take a photo of them.
When her boyfriend brought this up, her heart began to race as she wondered if it was some kind of game and that he was planning a real proposal (they’ve never talked about getting engaged before).
“I think I just said “wait, what do you mean?” and he said that proposal pictures in this spot were really popular and that we should “take the opportunity” while we can,” she explained.
“I said that I wasn’t really interested in a fake proposal picture and that I thought it was weird that he would suggest that. We moved on pretty quickly and went to dinner.”
Later that night, when they returned to the hotel where they were staying, she could see that her boyfriend was still super upset, so she brought up the fake proposal again.
She flat-out questioned her boyfriend about if he was planning a real proposal, and she wrecked it, but he said that wasn’t the case.
He doesn’t believe they’re ready to get engaged, and she’s in agreement with that. The first eight months of their relationship were long-distance, and she’s going to move in with him in January, so they’re not in an engagement phase yet.
“He said that he always thought the proposal picture in front of the Eiffel Tower was really romantic and that he’s worried whenever he actually does propose, it won’t be as romantic as Paris, so he wanted to get the picture while we could,” she said.
“I apologized but told him that I was only interested in actual proposal pictures and that I would love them whenever/wherever it happened. He has been pretty crestfallen since this conversation, and I really feel like I genuinely ruined something for him.”
“I called some friends when we got home and got mixed advice, some agreeing that it was a really odd request, and some saying I should have just taken the fake proposal photo, which would have been no harm done.”
She’s left wondering if it was mean of her not to want to take a fake engagement photo with her boyfriend, but I’m curious if you think this is super bizarre.
What do you think?
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AITA for not letting my partner "fake propose" to me while on vacation?
byu/throwraliliti inAmItheAsshole
