We all have that friend. The one who walks into a room like they own it, shrugs off awkward moments, and somehow always seems completely unfazed by what people think.
You know, the human embodiment of ‘main character energy.’ If you’ve ever wondered how they do it (and, more importantly, how you can do it too), this is for you. Here’s how to channel that unbothered, confident energy and step into your power.
1. Stop Overthinking Everything
Your unbothered friend? They don’t spend hours replaying that one cringey thing they said three years ago. Confidence isn’t about being perfect—it’s about owning your imperfections and moving on. The key here: if it won’t matter in a month, don’t give it more than five minutes of your energy.
2. Speak Like You Mean It
Ever notice how confident people don’t second-guess their words? They say things with their chest. No more trailing off, whispering, or adding unnecessary “I don’t know, but…” to your sentences. Own what you say and stand by it—people will take you more seriously when you do.
3. Embrace the ‘What’s the Worst That Could Happen?’ Mindset
That friend who never seems nervous? They’ve mastered the art of realizing that most ‘embarrassing’ moments are temporary. Trip in public? Laugh it off. Say something awkward? Roll with it. The reality is, most people aren’t paying as much attention to you as you think (they’re too busy overthinking their own lives).
4. Fake It ‘Til You Make It
Confidence is a muscle, and sometimes, you have to act the part before you fully believe it. Walk taller, make eye contact, and remind yourself that you deserve to take up space. Eventually, it won’t be an act—it’ll just be you.
5. Stop Apologizing for No Reason
Your unbothered friend isn’t out here saying ‘sorry’ for existing. Of course, apologies are important when necessary, but stop apologizing for things like having an opinion, taking your time, or saying no. Own your decisions without guilt.
6. Set Boundaries Like a Boss
Confidence isn’t just about how you present yourself—it’s also about what you won’t tolerate. Unbothered people don’t let others drain their energy. If something doesn’t serve you, walk away. No explanations needed.
7. Wear What Makes You Feel Good
Your most confident friend isn’t worried about whether their outfit is ‘too much’—they wear what they love, and that energy radiates. When you feel good in what you’re wearing, it shows. So wear the bold lipstick, the statement jacket, or whatever makes you feel unstoppable.
8. Accept That Not Everyone Will Like You (And That’s Okay)
One of the biggest confidence hacks? Realizing that you don’t need universal approval. Even the most amazing people in the world have critics. Focus on being true to yourself instead of bending over backward for validation.
9. Prioritize Self-Care & Self-Respect
Unbothered confidence starts from within. Take care of yourself—mentally, physically, and emotionally. The more you show up for you, the more you’ll naturally radiate self-assurance.
10. Just Go for It
Whatever you’re hesitating on—whether it’s speaking up in a meeting, making the first move, or trying something new—just do it. The only way to build confidence is to step outside your comfort zone. And remember: even your most confident friend had to start somewhere.
Final Thoughts
Confidence isn’t about never feeling nervous or insecure. It’s about deciding that your voice, your presence, and your energy matter. So channel your inner unbothered friend, hold your head high, and start showing up like the unstoppable force that you already are.
