A 21-year-old woman revealed to the internet that her 24-year-old boyfriend slapped her across her face for not wearing enough makeup.
She says he has never hit her before, so she’s left wondering if she should give him another chance or end the relationship here.
“We’ve been together for two years now,” she started out by explaining.
“To be completely fair, we haven’t exactly been treating each other very well lately, I’ve also lost my temper with him at times and we do rile each other up.”
It already feels sad that she feels the need to paint the picture like this.
“He has to work from home which is very challenging for him and I’m stuck at home with no job so I don’t have much of an escape, I do the housework and try to keep up with my hobbies but mostly I just use my free time to sit around and watch shows.”
“He doesn’t mind as long as I’m keeping the house clean and doing at least one or two useful activities a day.”
She then says he is “very particular” about what happens in the bedroom.
“He always asks me to wear full makeup in the way that he likes it. This usually takes me at least half an hour to get done,” she continued.
She mentioned she doesn’t mind having to live up to these expectations because she enjoys making her boyfriend happy.
She also wants to be as attractive as she can for him so it’s more fun.
Lately, she has not been feeling the best emotionally, so she has been “slacking in a lot of areas” including putting all her makeup on.
She went on to say he tried to initiate intimacy with her, so she began getting ready for him.
“I spent about ten minutes doing minimal makeup and just sat on the bed on my phone waiting for him.”
He was upset when he saw her and asked if she thought she did a good job with her makeup.
“I told him I was tired and didn’t want to spend thirty minutes dolling myself up,” she wrote, adding that the tone she took with him was a little nasty because she was annoyed he wouldn’t move past this.
“He asked me again. When I told him no, he slapped my face. It shocked me a lot more than it hurt. I just froze and pretty much disassociated from that point.”
They were intimate, which she described as “a lot more gentle than usual and it wasn’t that painful for me.”
Then, her boyfriend returned to his office to keep working and she walked around their house in a daze.
That night, she explained that her boyfriend apologized at dinner, claiming his bad mood at work was what caused him to do what he did to her.
He swore he would not hit her again, and she thinks he genuinely did regret his actions.
“…I know I wasn’t exactly on my best behavior yesterday. I feel so conflicted and I don’t know whether to give him another chance or not.”
“It’s tearing me up to think about what I want to do about this because I don’t want to choose the wrong option and end up regretting it.”
“What do you think I should do?”
The internet did not hold back, and everyone unanimously agreed she needs to get out of that relationship ASAP.
Here’s what the internet had to say.
“Most people do not hit each other. This isn’t something you get a free pass for, like leaving the toilet seat up or forgetting to put the bins out.”
“This is assault. There’s no excuse for it. It is wrong. It is illegal. It is dangerous.”
“…Get a restraining order girl. People like that only get worse and worse, especially if given another chance. Get out while you can. I’m sorry this happened to you, I wish you the best.”
“Imagine your best friend or your little sister came to you with this question. What would you tell her?”
“Maybe just me but you get hit you quit men don’t change.”
“Ok, so he’s frustrated. Does he slap his boss when he’s frustrated? His neighbors? His parents? His friends? He’s using you as a punching bag.”
“Not only that, but he’s trying to control what you look like and punishing you for it if you don’t meet his expectations. This is about power, not being frustrated.”
“You should absolutely not go back to him. This is the first time, not the last time. Don’t stick around to see how many more times it’s going to happen.”
“Stop making excuses for him. It doesn’t matter how you’ve been treating each other recently or that he treats you really well otherwise.”
“This is completely unacceptable. The fact that he can’t control his anger and stress from work and then takes it out on you is very very concerning. What will his excuse be next time?”
You can read the rest of what the internet had to say about all this here.
